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4 Ways to Have Peace From God

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  1. Start each day turning your heart to God in prayer. Most of us like to start off the morning with a hot cup of coffee. Let that first sip be a reminder to turn your heart to God in gratitude.
  2. Be intentional about learning God's ways. The best way to learn God's methods is to read His book. If you don't know where to start, I recommend John chapters 14-16.
  3. Trust that God will lead you each step of your life journey. Choose to shut down all of the "what if's" and believe that God knows what's best for you and is working to bring it about. Your "missteps" will never be too big or messy for Him. 
  4. Determine in Your heart to follow Jesus every day from now on. No matter what anyone else says or does, be a sold out Jesus follower. Jesus has a lot of fans: people who like Him. Don't just "like" Him, make Him your Master.

Here's the audio of a blessing I gave recently at Heartland Church

Moving From an Idea to a Plan

Whatever God is calling you to do, He will always provide everything you need in order to follow through on it. He is a good Father, and He will not ask you do something, then leave you to do it on your own. Here's where to start...

  1. Get clear on your mission. What problem in the world makes your blood boil? What is your dream testimonial?
  2. Make a short term plan with a few things you can start on right away to get you headed in the right direction.
  3. Imagine what you want your life to look like in five or ten years. Are you putting the right things in place to get there?

It's not enough to get a vision; we need to ask Holy Spirit to help us walk it out. Feeling overwhelmed? You can do this! It's time to cooperate with God.

Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. James 1:22


Would you do me a huge favor and take this one minute survey about where you are on the journey to your destiny? This will help me know how to help you.

Discovering Your Special Sauce

What are you good at? Chances are you don't really know. Think about it for a second....

Most of the time the things we are good at don't even make the list. The things we are good at come to us so naturally that we tend to not even notice them. (Click to Tweet) They can be a bit like water to a fish.

You might be able to identify the things you are best at by noticing what things you tend to judge the most in other people.

For example, if you always find yourself looking down on people who dress sloppy, you may have a gift for beauty. Maybe you could develop a practical solution to inspire others to dress for the life they want to have.

As natural human beings we tend to judge other people's weaknesses against our strengths. This is a recipe for disunity. In reality, criticism is the opposite of honor. You cannot have a positive impact on society without honor. (Click to Tweet)

Generally it's a bad idea to compare yourself with other people. If you compare other people's strengths to your own weaknesses, you could put yourself into a clinical depression. We all have different strong points. No one has a monopoly on perfection.

As followers of Jesus, supernatural beings, we get to come up higher and begin to value each other for the wide array of strengths we each bring to the table. It takes all kinds to get the work of the Kingdom accomplished. After all, Jesus is the Head, and we are His body. I'm pretty sure He doesn't want to be all elbows. Another way to find out what you should focus your life's efforts the most on is to think about what things break your heart the most or make you feel intense anger.

In my case, thinking about orphans breaks my heart. There is something about the kids living in the slums in India that tears me up inside. I know that part of my destiny is to rescue as many of them as I can. I want to see them not only provided for physically, but also nurtured emotionally and spiritually.

I cannot afford to get overwhelmed by the enormity of the problem. I have to take it one child at a time. For the past few years we have been sponsoring one little boy from India. My dream is to one day be able to provide homes to care for multiple children there.

Another thing that makes me feel intense frustration is when I see angry parents being harsh with young children. Of course all parents experience moments of frustration, but spewing anger on kids is so damaging to their hearts. When I see a child wilt right before me, it breaks my heart.

My heart also breaks for the parents. Most of the time they never had nurturing parents themselves and are really just emotional orphans. 

It makes me just want to swoop in and pour love and nurture on the parent and child alike. The parents really need someone to come along side them and parent them. Only then will they have the life tools needed to stop the dysfunctional cycle they are living in.

 

The people who are the angriest about a problem,

are usually the ones who are to be the solution. (Click to Tweet)

 

Ready to find your special sauce? What makes you angry? What breaks your heart?

Ask the Lord to show you what your part is in bringing a solution.

 

I would love to hear your thoughts.

You can reply with a comment to participate in the conversation.

Your Marriage Team

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Thinking about getting married?

Here are some questions to ask yourself about the person you're considering:

1.     Do they love God more than they love you? As flattering as it may be to have someone adore you, it is vital that you not come first in their life. You do not want to be an idol. God will not bless idolatry.

2.      Do they have respectful, healthy relationships with their parents and siblings? The way they already do family relationships is what you can expect from them if you start a new family with them. Spend a lot of time with them and their family together so that you can get a good idea of what is in store for you.

3.     Do they have the same life mission as you? It will be very hard to accomplish your heart’s mission if you are tied to someone who is headed in a different direction than you are.

Already Married?

Once you are married, you have a life time to grow and strategize together in your life mission. Every family should take time to formulate their mission.

What does your family bring to the world to make it a better place?

If you find that you are not headed in the same direction as your spouse, bailing on them is not an option. You will need to find a new mission that you both can invest in.

God is completely committed to helping you have a bright future. He is so faithful to complete the work that He has started in you. It is hard to get off track when you have a sincere desire to follow Him.

He even takes your mistakes and weaves them into your destiny to make your story powerful. He redeems every messy situation to the core.

Think of a wall with a hole knocked into it. God doesn’t just slap some scotch tape and spray paint onto it. He does a thorough repair job to the point that the wall looks brand new. 

Destiny key: Don’t be overwhelmed by trying to figure out God’s will for your life. Submit yourself to God and your leaders, get into a place of peace, and do what God is putting in your heart.

 

For I am confident of this very thing,

that He who began a good work in you

will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.

Philippians 1:6

(This post is an excerpt from Diary of a Missionary Kid - Filled With Strategy to Unlock Your Destiny)

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See You on the Flip Side

Last Monday we talked about how Slow and Steady Wins the Race. If you missed that post, please check it out. This week I want to look at the flip side of things. Recently I had a few days where I felt like I was pushing against a brick wall. I had all of these things in my heart to accomplish, and had been working towards them with diligence for many months, when I came to a spot where I smacked into what felt like strong resistance.

As I was driving down the road thinking things through, I passed a middle school football field. That was the moment when I was able to put my jumbled up, frustrated feelings into words. I felt like I had been pushing against one of those blocking sleds they use in football practice.

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Having that picture in my head brought me relief and peace. I realized that I was actually in a good spot. Sometimes to get something off the ground you have to push. Pushing is hard, painful work. The fact that it is time to push means that something awesome is about to break forth.

When I was in labor with my first son, there was a distinct moment when the pain became so strong, that I just wanted to stop, climb out of the hospital bed, and go home. I had been waiting for that day with all of my heart for nine months, honestly for my whole life. When the pain became overwhelming I just wanted to "stick a pin in it" and try again another day.

Turn back the clock another 23 years. When my mom was ready to give birth to me something crazy happened. When the time to push came, her doctor instructed the nurses to hold her off for what turned out to be several hours. This delay caused physical damage to my mom. She had to have follow-up surgery and ended up only being able to bear two children when she would have liked to have had more.

Sometimes you just have to push! Quitting is not an option, and delay is dangerous.

This is the moment when the resistance actually works for you. Great breakthrough is imminent if you keep pressing forward.

Whenever a woman is in labor she has pain, because her hour has come; but when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish because of the joy that a child has been born into the world. John 16:21 NASB

I'm realizing that my biggest breakthroughs come when I keep pushing.

(Please do not take this as permission topush against God or against your leaders in a rebellious way. That is definitely not what I am suggesting. If you push too early, you will birth a preemie and go through a lot of added stress.)

Behold, I will do something new, Now it will spring forth; Will you not be aware of it?I will even make a roadway in the wilderness,Rivers in the desert.

Isaiah 43:19 NASB

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What Brand are You?

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As children we tend to absorb labels. Our parents should be the ones who brand us with good words, calling us up into our destinies. In many cases our parents carried negative labels themselves and had no clue how to brand us or that it was even part of their job description.
Some common labels are:
                                 scatterbrained, shy, dumb, lazy, below average, dramatic,
                                 stubborn, clumsy, or accident prone.
Maybe a doctor or other "professional" labeled you with:
                                 ADHD, DID, PTSD, or some other series of letters.
These labels do not have the power to define you forever unless you let them.
You can move beyond your childhood and be a powerful adult.
You were a child then. You are not nowYou are an adult.
You really can throw off all of those old labels from when you were a child and embrace  new labels.
You have generations of ancestors cheering you on!
Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.  (Hebrews 12:1 NASB)
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Key idea: You do not have to be who you have always been.

Key strategy: Who do you need to be in order to do what you want to do? Put it into one sentence. Put it in your reminders in your phone and set the alarm to go off at a certain time each day. Read it out loud each day. Do it until it feels true and natural.

When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things.  (1 Corinthians 13:11)

Help Me Name My Book

On my recent trip to Cuba I spent many hours traveling the countryside on a bus. There were moments where I sat gazing peacefully at the scenery outside. There were moments where I gave in to exhaustion and fell asleep. There were also many moments of wonderful conversation with the other team members sitting around me. In one of the moments of swapping stories, my friend Kristi pointed out that I had a lot of unusual stories to tell. Honestly, my stories are my stories, and they have always just felt normal to me. The longer we talked I started to realize that my life has not been an ordinary one.

I decided to write a book. I have poured out my heart and soul onto the written page. I am in the final stages of editing, and now I need YOUR help.

Would you please help me name my book.

Click below to vote on your favorite title:

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Everything Worth Doing is Worth Doing Poorly

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  Do you have big dreams but don't know where to start? Maybe you lack the confidence that you will be successful.

You really have to start somewhere. It is like the old question. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

When people ask my husband how he learned to speak Spanish he often responds, "You have to speak bad Spanish before you can speak good Spanish."

His desire to speak other languages is much greater than his desire to not look foolish. This thinking has served him well.

Pride is sometimes what stops us from trying. We don't like to look silly in front of other people, but you simply can not be perfect at something the first time you do it.

You have to be willing to try and fail. Fear of looking like a fool is pride.

God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6).

This is something that I personally struggle with. I much prefer to do everything as "perfectly" as I can the first time around.

I spend hours studying and researching a thing before I do it. I think there is wisdom in preparing well, but at some point you have to stop preparing and move forward.

I have to remind myself that if I am willing to humble myself and take a step forward, grace will come to me.

Everything worth doing is worth doing poorly....at the beginning.

You have to start somewhere. We have to get right up to the starting line and take that first step.

No one is born knowing how to walk gracefully. You literally have to take baby steps.

 

Take some baby steps towards fulfilling your destiny today!

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God's Weak Spot

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A new year brings transition. Transition can be awkward and even scary, but you have a good Father who has picked you as his favorite. I recently watched a couple of documentaries about Queen Elizabeth 1 of England. She was a powerful leader for 46 years. She was bold, and she knew her own mind.

Though she never married there was one man in her life who was her favorite. She had a serious weak spot for him. She gave him her ear, positions of influence, and great financial provision even when people around her thought she was being foolish and too extravagant.

When her favorite died too early, she poured her favor onto his son in his place.

As I got to know a bit about this powerful ruler I was so struck by what it means to be a favorite. Favor opens doors to you that would never open otherwise.

God's heart is turned by you and towards you. You are His weak spot.

You can move forward into this next season of your unfolding destiny with faith and confidence because your Daddy God is crazy about you.

As we transition into a new year let's go in with peace!