Relationships

What Do You Do When Your Nose Is Out of Joint?

Have you ever heard anyone say they got their nose out of joint? Usually what they mean by that is that they needed an attitude adjustment.

As you probably know, I’ve been getting my health in order and feeling better than I have in years. But what you probably don’t know is I have been struggling with a pesky, painful spot in my lower back.

The muscles have been extremely tight, and that’s part of what has been causing my problem. Apparently, my hips have been out of joint, and that has been putting pressure on the other parts of my core. I’ve been getting deep tissue massages, but in addition to that I needed to make a trip to the chiropractor.

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You see, the massage therapist can help the muscles relax, but if something in your frame is out of place, the relief is only temporary. Turns out my L5 was out of alignment, and I’m getting better now!

When you have something out of place, the chiropractor is a whiz at getting you straightened out. Combine this with a massage therapist and you’ve got a winning plan.

But what do you do when your nose is out of joint? Who do you call when you’ve allowed your heart and mind to get out of alignment with God?

It can be helpful to talk things through with a trusted mentor, but in the end you have to humble yourself and work with God to get your heart and mind adjusted. Your heart and mind are your responsibility. Don’t just wait for God to magically change you. You have to work with Him.

You see, I couldn’t just sit at home and expect the chiropractor to magically fix my condition. I had to get in my van, drive to his office, and humbly lie down on the table. I had to take a deep breath, let it slowly out, and allow him to push on me until everything popped back into place.

If your nose is out of joint, don’t wait any longer. It’s time to take care of business and get things in order. If you don’t, it will affect all of the other parts of your life.

How to Build Your Community

What lies do you believe that keep you from connecting with friends? I used to be held back from spending time with people because I was afraid of awkward silent moments. I felt like I was innately boring and wouldn't have anything interesting to talk about.

I found that one solution for this was to get together to do an activity. Working on a project together or playing a game can help make connecting easier.

Here are 7 tips to help you foster community and practice hospitality:

  • Practice smiling at people and looking them in the eye.
  • Practice making small talk. This doesn't come naturally to everyone, but it is the starting point for deeper conversations.
  • Don't wait until your house is perfect to invite people over for dinner. If your house is messy your guests will just feel better about their own home. You will be doing them a service.
  • Don't wait for someone to invite you for coffee. Take the first step.
  • Make a phone call or text instead of waiting for someone to call you.
  • When people make room for you in their lives, take it, even if it’s just hanging out with them and helping them with whatever project they are working on.  That may be all the time they have available, so honor it.
  • In order to make meaningful connections, you must be intentional. Get out your calendar and make a plan.

YOU are the solution to lack of community!

Strangers are just friends waiting to happen. -Rod McKuen

A man who has friends must himself be friendly (Proverbs 18:24a NKJV)

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