When you hear the phrase, "You are different than everyone else," what tone do you hear it in? Is it a positive thing or a negative one?
If you hear it from the loving voice of your Father, you will be strengthened to stand firm in your arena.
If you hear it through the lens of your own insecurities, you will be tempted to agree with the accuser and back off from taking your place in the world. Don't let your internal disqualifications hold you back.
Have you ever heard anyone say that comparison is bad?
Look at these two glasses. One is a mug, and the other a glass....obviously. Oops! We just compared them!
Did our comparing them make one of them better or more valuable than the other? Of course not. They were each made for a different purpose. If you are craving a cup of coffee you will want the mug, but if iced tea is your heart's desire you will go for the glass.
If we never compare ourselves to each other, how will we recognize and honor the unique gift mix that each person carries?
I would like to propose the idea that comparison is not bad at all. Where we get into trouble is when we turn our comparison into unrighteous judgement.
- When we judge other people's weaknesses against our strengths we side with the accuser and fall into pride.
- When we judge our weaknesses against other people's strengths we also side with the accuser and fall into condemnation and insecurity.
People talk about not judging, the fact is we judge all the time. Judging in and of itself isn’t bad. People don’t get upset when you judge them positively. It’s when you confront their sin that they get tend to say, "Don't judge me!"
How can you compare without judging ?
- Believe the best.
- Recognize the need for diversity in the body of Christ
- Celebrate the fact that we all have different gifts, styles, and anointings
- Remember that every position has value and importance
The word diversity has come to mean a lot of things in our culture today. Sadly people use it to affirm sinful lifestyles, but God really is a God of diversity. He doesn’t approve of sin, but He is the author of different personalities and gift mixes.
We are all different, and that's a good thing. God is not looking for clones.
For the body is not one member, but many. If the foot says, “Because I am not a hand, I am not a part of the body,” it is not for this reason any the less a part of the body? 1 Cor 12:14-15
Which part of the body are YOU?
This post was co-written with my husband, Christopher Olson. An audio version is now available.