The other day I posted this quote on social media, and I got some questions about it. I'd like to take a moment now to expound on it. The quote was:
If you keep trying to forgive but can't seem to let go, you might have fallen into unrighteous judgment.
We all know that holding unforgiveness in our hearts is not the pathway to living in peace, but as much as we may want to forgive, the actual letting go can be really, really hard.
Here's the thing, if you feel like you've tried to forgive but just can't, you probably have moved from being hurt into the sin of unrighteous judgment.
I'm not saying that it is always wrong to judge. In fact, there is a time where judging is actually appropriate. You can read more about that here.
Things get messy when you start to judge out of a critical heart. If you want to be free, you will need to actually repent of the judgment and ask God to forgive you for it. When you do, grace will come to your life.
Key Idea: If you’ve fallen into the sin of unrighteousness judgment, repent of it and ask God to forgive you. This will unlock grace for you to truly forgive.
Here are a couple of resources (from some heroes of mine) on this subject: