Having a messiah complex (living as though it is your job to make sure everyone in your life is happy) is a sure way to live your life completely stressed out. But not falling into this behavior can be a real challenge when you really care about people. It’s so hard to watch people we care about self-sabotage, and sometimes we just really want to swoop in and try to "fix" other people's lives since they don't seem to be able to do it for themselves.
The bottom line is: each person is responsible for their own heart and life.
You can lead by example and encourage others to follow, but when it’s all said and done, people have to make their own choices.
This truth is really important for parents and leaders. We can easily get caught up in the idea that it is our job to fix everyone and everything. The problem is, though we are to be like Jesus, we are not Him.
- You cannot control anyone besides yourself, and if you try to, you will make yourself crazy.
- Don’t try to do the work of the Holy Spirit. Take time to be filled up with Him, then partner with HIm to help others by letting Him flow through you to do the work that only He can do.
Key Idea: It’s time to present the people you care about to the Lord, and leave them there. If you notice yourself starting to move into worry and codependency again, just hand them back over to God as many times as you have to.
This is not unloving; it is actually obedience to Jesus. He commands us not worry, and He knows what’s best.